Is Your Child Being Taught To Be A Victim? Part 1

I will be 41 years old in the very near future, and for the first time in my life, I went to D-hall. For those few who may not know the term, it is ‘detention’ and it is given during after-school hours to those students who have broken whatever rules the school may wish to enforce.

The school in question is the local intermediate school. If any are wondering, I am not in the Guinness Book of Records for being held back. I completed my time in public school and college more years ago than I truly like to think about. Nor am I employed by the school district in the capacity of a teacher.

In fact, my presence in detention caused quite a stir between the teacher and principle of the school. I was there of my own free will because of a crime my daughter’s school seems to think I committed. This crime was to teach my 11-year-old how to defend herself during a physical attack.

My husband and I have both studied the martial arts for many years. We have taught classes to men, women and children. The typical reaction I receive when someone finds out I hold the belt rank I do is, “Oh, I better watch out or you will kick my rear!” This is usually done in a patronizing, ridiculing manner. The person doesn’t understand what the martial arts are really about.

One of the things we always try to get across to our students is to avoid a confrontation whenever possible. By avoiding confrontation, I simply mean trying to step back and try to discuss the situation. While this may work in many situations, there are times it will fail. I don’t mean running away and I certainly don’t mean he or she should simply stand there while some bully beats the tar out of them as ways of avoiding a confrontation.

After speaking to my daughter’s principle, though, I found out this is exactly what the school expects the child to do. Mrs. Baylor informed me that, “We cannot condone any violence. If a one child hits another, there should be no retaliation. Vicki should have attempted to duck or block the blow but never should she have hit back.”

My daughter was hit upside the head by a fully loaded backpack by a much larger boy; she came home with a bruised face, swollen eye and cut lip. Vicki is a very delicate-looking child: fine boned, almost five-feet-tall but only 75 pounds. Since the children aren’t allowed to go to their lockers between classes, the book bag had half a day’s worth of text books in it.

Even with the proof on her face, the school didn’t do anything to the boy because a teacher didn’t see the attack. All she saw was Vicki picking herself up off the ground and giving the boy in question a solid sidekick that she followed up with a punch. In essence, getting the attacker off of her and placing some distance between them. Something she learned and practiced in karate.

August 25th, 2011 - Posted in Abuse | | Comments Off

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